I was getting married, and I couldn’t find myself. It was tough finding wedding inspiration I could identify with.
I couldn’t find myself in wedding magazines. I couldn’t find myself in the windows of wedding dress stores. I couldn’t find myself in any of the pictures from wedding venue brochures. My husband to be didn’t really want to plan, because he felt the same way.
What do you do when you’re planning a unique wedding?
When we got married online wedding planning wasn’t a thing yet, so there’s that. (Bonus points if you can guess my age.) I recently attempted to start planning a vow renewal for us, and made a little Pinterest board for my dream wedding vow renewal. I had a HECK of a time finding things that felt like me and my husband. I have 11 pins! I should be drowning in inspiration. Right? Maybe not.
I realized that the inspiration for our vow renewal needed to come from me, and from my husband, not from a website. We needed to create our own vision.
I started to think while I was pinning things. Maybe I need to be less picky? Maybe the dress I’m looking for doesn’t exist? Maybe I need to give up on these ideas I have? I’m really critical sometimes. An awesome trait to have as a photographer, not so much when planning my own vow renewal. It’s easy to get this way when you’re surrounded by other people’s wedding pictures all the time. I had to let go of those other weddings. They were not mine.
Ultimately we decided let go of planning a vow renewal at all! We’re both introverted people and don’t like being the center of attention. Our inspiration kept coming up empty when we focused on this vow renewal as something we should do. We let go of all the “should do’s” that were not from out own hearts. We decided to take that energy and focus on planning really fun road trips to take with our teenager instead. We wanted to celebrate ourselves as a family, and experience new things together. A trip to Montana this summer will be our first celebration.
Your wedding is YOURS, together as a couple. Celebrate that.
Listen to your hearts when planning your wedding. Don’t give up on your wedding vision because it feels impossible. Don’t give up because you feel under represented in all the “usual” wedding planning media. You’re going to put a lot of time into planning your wedding. Time is valuable, so spend it on things you really, really want. There comes a point when you need to take a deep breath, look at all your wedding dreams, and include only wedding plans that give you joy. If you don’t feel joy toss it out. This includes the million social media accounts and Pinterest boards you started following because you though you should.
I’m a wedding photographer, and I LOVE my job. I am committed to celebrating every wedding I photograph as a unique day between two unique people. I celebrate all the things my couples do to create a wedding that is uniquely theirs. My hope every time I work with a couple is they are able to look back at their photographs and see themselves as they truly are. Happy, in love, unique and beautiful people celebrating the day their relationship bloomed into marriage.
I’m a Southern Minnesota wedding photographer. My home base is south of Shakopee in Belle Plaine, but I travel all over for wedding photography. If you like what you see in my portfolio, we should chat about your wedding plans.